Homeschool Burnout and What to Do About It
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What is burnout? Often burnout comes with lots of feelingsâexhaustion, frustration, and even a desire to throw in the towel. âIâm exhausted, and so are the kids,â you may say to yourself. âHomeschooling isnât fun anymore. Iâm not good at it! I just want to put my kids on the yellow school bus.âÂ
Sound familiar? If youâve had these feelings, know that you arenât alone. Most homeschoolers have experienced burnout at one point or another. The good news, though? There are tried-and-true ways to overcome burnout and get yourself and your kids back on track.Â
The first step? Pray. And not for the energy to keep muscling through but, instead, for the wisdom and clarity to find a healthy rhythm. If possible, ask another homeschool parent for encouragement. Joy is waiting for you on the other side, but something may need to change for you to get there. With that added support, read on to understand why homeschool burnout happens and what, specifically, you can do to pull yourself out of self-doubt.Â
Burnout Season
Before you can course-correct burnout, itâs important to understand why youâre feeling this way. Sometimes, burnout is just the natural result of a particular season of life. January and February, for example, are common times for burnout to hit: not only are we all coming away from Christmas highs, but thereâs likely less sunlight, which can drag spirits downâespecially because summer is still months away.Â
Changes in family life
Some life changes can also trigger homeschool burnout. An illness, the birth of a new baby, a move, or a job change, for example, can bring on added stress and trigger homeschool burnout.Â
This is normal. It isnât reasonable to think that you can accomplish just as much work in these circumstances as when you are full of energy and free from extra concerns that draw on your time.Â
Similarly, if your child is new to homeschooling or has had a bad experience at another schoolâor with an overly-demanding homeschool programâhe may be struggling because of academic overload or attitudes that can take a while to recover from.Â
Too many supplemental assignments
Although every homeschooler experiences burnout at one time or another, extended periods of burnout are a sign to reassess your schedule and expectations. One of the most frequent causes of burnout is adding on too many extra assignments. There are so many good books out there that it can be tempting to add âjust one moreâ to your curriculum!Â
At one time or another, most homeschoolers also struggle with self-doubtâthat youâll somehow fail your child if you donât âdo it allâ in a day, a week, or a school year. Itâs important to remember that a good education is not limited to book learning. Our childrenâs minds and characters are also developing while playing, exploring hobbies and talents, helping with family chores, and interacting with siblings and friends. Adding too many supplemental assignments can lengthen the school day and increase frustration, exhausting the parent-teacher while stifling your studentâs natural love of learning.Â
Using a curriculum that is too rigorous or structured
Even if you have not added any supplemental assignments to your curriculum, it is possible that the homeschool program you are using already includes too many assignments. Some homeschool programs overwhelm students with hours and hours of school each day. This can discourage children from wanting to learn anything.
Many families first try CHC because they experienced burnout with other programs. After switching, they are thrilled to find that CHCâs curriculum provides an academically excellent education and also encourages their childrenâs love for learning while leaving more time for family activities.Â
Thatâs not to say that CHC is guaranteed to be the perfect fit for your familyâevery family is different. But if youâre experiencing homeschool burnout with a different curriculum, it is worth considering whether a less burdensome homeschool program would be a better fit for your family.
Unlike many homeschool providers, CHC doesnât confuse âarduousâ with âacademic.â In most cases, just the opposite is true. An exhausted child is not going to be as receptive to learning as a child who is engaged in his subjects and not overwhelmed.Â
Too many extracurricular activities
Trying to fit in too many extracurricular activities can also lead to burnout. Rather than trying to fit in a separate, full social life for each of your children, focus on group activities in which all your children can participate, such as homeschool groups or church events.
Summer is a great time for more extracurriculars because it doesnât add to your already busy schedule during the school year. For example, swimming lessons. Summer classes are a great way to help your children socialize without too much commitment. Also, in any new group or class, you and your children may meet new people youâd like to befriend.Â
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What to do when burnout strikes
With a better understanding of what causes burnout, we can now tackle the big question: What to do when burnout strikes? For many families, taking a little break can be a huge step in the right direction. A day off (or three) can help refresh everyoneâs spirits and reconnect you with the joy of homeschooling. When used judiciously, impromptu breaks from routine provide much-needed relief and a reminder of the sweetness of life.Â
When you take a break, you might find that your child wants to curl up on the couch with a book or sink into some other quiet activityâor he may respond with a burst of energy. In that case, consider letting him get out and playâbut find activities that donât require your involvement. The key is not to stress about your activity: the point of this break is to relax and recharge, not to shift that angst to something else.
Some other activities to consider?
- Funny Hat Day: Make or borrow an outrageous hat to wear all day
- Dress Backwards Day: Just as it sounds!Â
- Chocolate Chip Day: Award chocolate chips or some other âtiny treatââthey can add up!âfor each right answerÂ
- School on the Sofa Day: Why not snuggle up and learn?
- School Under the Table Day: Fill your space with big cozy pillows and hunker down
- Free Time Day: Devote time to digging into whatever your child loves mostâa favorite hobby, sport, activity, or visit to a local park, playground, or other fun spotÂ
After observing your studentsâ work patterns for a few days, chart what you think is a reasonable amount of time for the students to finish a lesson and still do a good job, then add five minutesâfor example, 20 minutes for a spelling page plus five more minutes or 45 minutes for math plus five more minutes. Tell your student that today you will set a timer for the charted period of time. If he completes his lesson before the timer âdingsâ any remaining time is his to spend on that favorite book, game, or outdoor play. When the timer rings, reset it for the next lesson, and so on. As an incentive, keep that favorite book or game within view, but out of reach.Â
To add âspark,â dramatically set the timer and announce, âon your mark, get set, GO!â as the time starts ticking down. This exercise is fun for everyone but also revealing. Itâs possible both you and your child will be happily surprised to learn that his school day can be shortened with a bit of focus.
Core vs non-core subjects
Another strategy during burnout periods is to differentiate between core and non-core subjectsâand eliminate what isnât necessary.Â
Again, core subjects are the basic essentials of education for a particular grade, such as reading, math, science, and religion. Non-core or elective subjects such as art and map skills are not required and can be added as time, interest, and finances allow. CHC lesson plans make it easy for you to know which subjects are core and which are not, and what a minimalist plan of action looks like.
During burnout periods, donât be afraid to cut down to essentialsâthose core subjects in CHCâs curriculum. If you donât have time for all the core subjects, thatâs OK, too. Do what you can, focusing on reading (especially for 5- to 7-year-olds) and math.Â
With a modified curriculum in place, try going at a slower pace, at least at first. As much as possible, encourage your child to read independently. Donât worry if you donât get very much school done for a while. There are more important lessons than academic ones, and not everything should be sacrificed for short-term academic success. Your child will learn important character lessons and have new opportunities to mature when you make adjustments to respect your familyâs needs.
By understanding why youâre burning outâand what, specifically, you can do to both bounce back and curb future burnoutâyouâll be better positioned to move forward with your homeschooling, happily and confidently. Take a breather and give yourself time to consider the best way to go forward. Is it time for a quick break? Or have you been adding too much to your homeschool schedule? Can you roll back to just the core subjectsâat least in the short-term?Â
By asking yourself these questionsâand being honest in your answersâyou can keep your homeschooling journey moving forward, now and in the future.Â
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