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My son has difficulty in formulating the right words to say when he talks

Boy practices making sounds with speech therapist


My oldest son, Andrew (11), has difficulty in formulating the right words to say when he talks. For example: When he tries to talk to me about something he has read he keeps repeating the first part of his sentence until he comes up with the next word. He also has trouble speaking plainly; his words come out garbled. When he was a baby his doctor told us he might need to have his tongue clipped later. Last year I took him in to see if that was what he needed to have happen, but the same doctor said not to worry about it. Andrew, has ADD or ADHD, we never had him tested. His doctor said we did not need to worry about it because he was doing well because I homeschool and could give him the attention he needed. I believe I am failing him in some way even though his grades are very good and he has always tested above average in most areas. Is there anything I can do to help him improve his ability to communicate? Thanks and God bless.

Dear Parent,

Please be advised that I am not a speech therapist. However, based upon my limited experience, I would like to offer the following suggestions.

Being able to speak so as to be understood is a major part of being human. You want your son to be able to communicate as well as possible regardless of his grades. I would ask your son how he feels about speaking. Give him the chance to tell you or to write about his feelings. Spend some time with this sharing back and forth.

Even if your son is not uncomfortable about his difficulty in communicating, then I would begin by playing sound games with your son frequently but briefly. Keep it fun, light, and varied. These ideas are listed in order of importance from greatest to least.

1. Read and practice MouthSounds, the book and CD, by Fred Newman. This book teaches sound effects that will work those speech muscles, and he probably won’t mind learning to make cool popping and clicking sounds. The book also explains how we make sounds.

2. Does your son have less difficulty when he sings? If you don’t know, find out by having him sing something along with the radio. It’s not uncommon for children to be able to sing clearly and yet not speak clearly. If singing helps, then sing or chant every day.

3. Practice tongue twisters or alliterative sentences, one sound at a time. For instance, work on the “l” sound one day. “Leaping lizards like lollipops.” You can find many databases of tongue twisters online. This practice also shows your son that everyone can have difficulty speaking certain letter combinations.

4. Imitate the voices of television anchors or celebrities by listening to a clip and then trying to recreate the sounds and rhythm.

My understanding is that in public and private schools, speech therapists have long waiting lists because there aren’t enough to handle the number of children who need help. As a home schooler, you don’t have to wait for a speech therapist. Start immediately with MouthSounds and singing. If you don’t hear any improvement after 30 days of consistent practice, then you should look for a specialist to rule out hearing or neurological issues and to pinpoint what will help your son. A friend of mine has a grandson who had a similar difficulty in formulating the right words, and he was diagnosed with apraxia of speech. Speech therapy proved to be just what he needed, and he is talking fine now.

Best regards,
Sandra Garant

About Sandra Garant

Sandra Garant is a veteran homeschooling mom, certified teacher, writer, attorney, and administrative law judge. She taught her three children at home until they were ready for college. She tutored students in writing for many years and is the author of Language of God, Level F and Language of God, Level G.